School of Curiosity

School of Curiosity

School of Curiosity

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Don’t worry….be happy

August 5, 2013

There’s a Dutch psychologist called Ad Kerkhof who specialises in suicide prevention. Perhaps not the most perky subject for a Monday morning, but wait….the principles he has developed and proven, apply to less extreme situations too, like the worrying that we all do.

He has found that people worry about one topic more than any other – the future, often believing that the more hours they spend contemplating it, the more likely they are to find a solution to their problems. But this isn’t the case, and though his techniques may sound remarkably straightforward, they are all backed up by trials.

Here’s one of his ideas.

Set aside a time for worrying. Your worries relate to real and practical problems in your life, so you cannot rid yourself of them altogether, but you can learn to control when you think about them. Telling people not to think of their worries isn’t going to work. Instead Kerkhof recommends the opposite. Set aside 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening to do nothing but worry about the future. Sit at a table, make a list of all your problems and then think about them. But as soon as the time is up you must stop worrying, and whenever those worries come back into your head remind yourself that you can’t contemplate them again until your next worry time. You have given yourself permission to postpone your worrying until the time of your choice. Remarkably, it can work. It puts you in control.

Have a curious day.



Cultural cognitive dissonance

July 2, 2013


From time to time, we are probably all pretty good at thinking that we live in a culture that’s a just a little bit superior to others. A recent question posted on Quora asked people to contemplate the question “What strikes you as odd about your own culture”.

The responses are funny, interesting, disturbing and sometimes downright bizarre. For example, India makes 3000 movies a year of which 95% are love stories. According to Anjishnu Kumar,  ”…The same society that consumes thousands of love stories for its weekly entertainment, has an arranged marriage rate of 80%+ in urban middle-class areas, and 100% in rural areas. Inter-caste and inter-faith marriages are almost like a statistical error”.

We also learn that Dutch people eat stuff that the rest of the world finds strange. Have a look here

Have a curious day.


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